Ever hear a voice yelling and think to yourself, “Who is that?” You don’t actually recognize the chalkboard-scratching voice you are hearing. Then you quickly realize, “OMG! It’s me!
This happens to me at least once a week, and each time I think, “How did it come to this?” Between the morning shuffle to get to school, the afterschool activities, the eating healthy, the homework (and the list goes on), as a Mom, you sometimes feel you are constantly yelling.
“Do your homework!”
“Practice the piano!”
“Clean up your room!”
“Did you do your homework?”
“Put your jackets in the closet!”
“Whose slippers are these?”
Ugh! In my house there is now a running joke that Mom is Momzilla! My husband will say to the kids, “Hurry up kids, or Mommy is going to turn into Momzilla.”
It’s not fair! I am utterly annoyed by this. I hate being the timekeeper, the disciplinarian, the homework checker, and the food bully. My husband calls me a “control freak”, which I am to a point, but I feel I have to be in order for things to run smoothly. I just don’t see it any other way. No one else (like my hubby) seems to step up to the plate to keep the house running smoothly. If I didn’t step in, we would always be late, my kids would have un-brushed hair, the house would be a disaster, and they would eat bread and butter ONLY.
But at the same time, I don’t want to be known to my kids as “Momzilla”. I want to be the fun one, the one that is relaxed – never stressed, and the one who doesn’t get upset and is patient. I have tried to put rules into place so that I don’t get to the point of screaming like a maniac, but somehow I always return to that pattern. I constantly waver as to what is right.
Should I just let everything go and let my kids fend for themselves more? If they are late, if they don’t practice the piano, or if they don’t eat properly, they will eventually learn, right? …Or by keeping them in check, am I teaching them to be good citizens and to follow the rules, even if I have to be the one reminding them?
I really do try hard to keep my cool, but then once a month (about a week before my monthly visitor) I lose it: my patience goes out the window and Momzilla comes out in full force. I need some advice. Does anyone else feel like Momzilla? What do you do to try to stop the madness?
By an anonymous mummieslist member